Natasha Khalid is one of Pakistan’s top Makeup Artists at the moment. She’s Madam Noor Jehan’s grand-daughter and has lived around “glamour” all her life. She owns “Natasha’s Salon” and single-handedly dolls up hundreds of brides every wedding season.
As someone who does makeup for a living, Natasha has seen first hand how the beauty standards are in Pakistan. Not only do these beauty standards apply to unmarried girls looking to get married, brides that are getting married and newlywed brides but they also apply to new moms.
Having a baby is a life-changing experience. A woman literally grows this baby inside her and gives birth to it too. The extreme amounts of hormonal changes, mental changes and just simple physical changes, in general, are insane.
For a Pakistani woman though, she usually doesn’t get to really enjoy the bliss of finally meeting her baby. Pakistani women are constantly bombarded with they she looks “worn out” now that they’re a mother. Some women even report hearing criticism before they’ve even left the hospital!
The most common sentence being “Haw, you still look pregnant”
There’s an absolutely insane pressure on Pakistani women to somehow snap back into their pre-baby bodies seconds after they give birth. If they don’t they’re constantly taunted over it. This leads to many new-moms avoiding social gatherings and staying isolated when this is the time they should be able to enjoy with their baby worry-free!
Natasha took to Instagram to talk about this very issue. She says that on her recent posts she’s been receiving comments of women asking how she lost the baby weight so quickly and how she looks so put together.
Her reply is that she hasn’t!
She says that she has a mama’s belly, she’s soft all over and she’s just focusing on breastfeeding her baby and eating whatever she wants!
She posted a very natural series of pictures saying that that’s her “Sunday best”. It’s not glamourous, it’s just her in her husband’s T-shirt, pyjamas and with a burp cloth on her shoulder. All her focus is on her baby, Noor.
She says she doesn’t have it all together, she’s learning how to be a mom every day.
Her message to everyone who struggles is
I feel you and send so much power & love to all mamas & women out there. We are absolutely powerful & incredible in every way , don’t let anyone make you feel any different.Natasha Khalid
This is so important. We need to normalise post-baby struggles too. We need to open our eyes and see that no, women don’t just “snap back”, they don’t have it all together and that’s okay.
Instead of going out of your way to constantly judge a mom for her body or how she parents, how about we learn to be supportive instead. Don’t shut down their struggles, understand them instead. Celebrate her journey into motherhood and all the ups and downs that come with it as much as you celebrate the baby existing.