Natasha Khalid talks about post-baby body shaming

Natasha Khalid is one of Pakistan’s top Makeup Artists at the moment. She’s Madam Noor Jehan’s grand-daughter and has lived around “glamour” all her life. She owns “Natasha’s Salon” and single-handedly dolls up hundreds of brides every wedding season.

As someone who does makeup for a living, Natasha has seen first hand how the beauty standards are in Pakistan. Not only do these beauty standards apply to unmarried girls looking to get married, brides that are getting married and newlywed brides but they also apply to new moms.

Having a baby is a life-changing experience. A woman literally grows this baby inside her and gives birth to it too. The extreme amounts of hormonal changes, mental changes and just simple physical changes, in general, are insane.

For a Pakistani woman though, she usually doesn’t get to really enjoy the bliss of finally meeting her baby. Pakistani women are constantly bombarded with they she looks “worn out” now that they’re a mother. Some women even report hearing criticism before they’ve even left the hospital!

The most common sentence being “Haw, you still look pregnant”

There’s an absolutely insane pressure on Pakistani women to somehow snap back into their pre-baby bodies seconds after they give birth. If they don’t they’re constantly taunted over it. This leads to many new-moms avoiding social gatherings and staying isolated when this is the time they should be able to enjoy with their baby worry-free!

Natasha took to Instagram to talk about this very issue. She says that on her recent posts she’s been receiving comments of women asking how she lost the baby weight so quickly and how she looks so put together.

Her reply is that she hasn’t!

She says that she has a mama’s belly, she’s soft all over and she’s just focusing on breastfeeding her baby and eating whatever she wants!

She posted a very natural series of pictures saying that that’s her “Sunday best”. It’s not glamourous, it’s just her in her husband’s T-shirt, pyjamas and with a burp cloth on her shoulder. All her focus is on her baby, Noor.

She says she doesn’t have it all together, she’s learning how to be a mom every day.

Her message to everyone who struggles is

I feel you and send so much power & love to all mamas & women out there. We are absolutely powerful & incredible in every way , don’t let anyone make you feel any different.

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I have always been in awe of those women I see that somehow seem to go back to being fit & look like they have it all together right after having a baby. Whilst I always wished them well I also realised the kind of pressure it put on all us women in general, as all of our journeys with our bodies are different and are not meant to be the same. With all the beauty videos that I’m posting there has been influx of messages of how I lost all my baby weight ? How do I look so put together with such a small baby? And I want to tell all the women & mamas messaging me that I have not lost the baby weight , I have a mama belly & am softer all over, my focus right now is my breastfeeding and eating what I love & indulging. And that is OK. I also am forever feeling like I’m not doing enough , forever trying to set routines for her , bathe her , play with her , do it all in time while juggling work and relationships and I am not able to do that most days. And that is OK. Having a baby may be one of the hardest things we do as women because alongside the absolute joy is a loss of self , massive hormonal shifts, I am paranoid about protecting my baby all the time, I fight with my husband & mom most days and cry in the shower without fail every day. And that is OK. These pictures taken today is me in my Sunday best , which is no makeup, my husbands shirt, burp cloth, crumpled pyjamas, oil in my hair , Noor in my hands & smile on my face. I don’t have it all together and I don’t have all the answers. I am learning to be a mom alongside my Noor , falling apart most of the time but then getting up and trying again. To everyone who struggles , I feel you and send so much power & love to all mamas & women out there. We are absolutely powerful & incredible in every way , don’t let anyone make you feel any different. #sundaymusings #quarantinediaries #noonelikemothersoutthere #itsokay #embracethestruggles #mamadiaries #allheart #wearepowerful #natashabeautybeat #natashabeautymakeupart

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This is so important. We need to normalise post-baby struggles too. We need to open our eyes and see that no, women don’t just “snap back”, they don’t have it all together and that’s okay.

Instead of going out of your way to constantly judge a mom for her body or how she parents, how about we learn to be supportive instead. Don’t shut down their struggles, understand them instead. Celebrate her journey into motherhood and all the ups and downs that come with it as much as you celebrate the baby existing.

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