You may have heard about Rj Ameer Hamza, and even if you haven’t, then chances are you may have stumbled upon his comedic skits with ‘Unique Microfilms’ now and then.
Rj Ameer Hamza is loved and followed by thousands. Yet, viewers also criticize him for his ‘not so stereotypical’ approach to masculinity since he doesn’t fit the typical role society has set for men.
In an interview with ‘Ab Rif Vlogs’, the entertainer talked about ‘feminine masculinity’, and the amount of hate he receives on a daily basis for just being how he is.
Feminine Masculinity in Pakistan
Hamza opened up about his personal life. Growing up, he was very involved with his sisters and mother and had a strong emotional bond. His father was abroad, and he spent many years of his life surrounded by women, which was why he also copied everything that his siblings and mother would do.
“I would copy everything my sisters and mother would do; I would do that for the company,” he said. But things took a different turn when he began interacting with the public. He brought this personality with him to school, which was not appreciated. His class-fellows bombarded him with negativity.
“People would say that I walk like ‘girls,’ or cried like girls,” Hamza added. The actor was also bullied for being ‘overly sensitive’ and crying on minor incidents.
“I was brought up by a woman, and that over-sensitivity was embedded in me, but when it came in front of the world, everyone said there was something wrong, and called it a ‘personality flaw’. If a girl dresses up like a man, people would appreciate it, and would say that she has ‘swag’. But if the guy does something feminine, he is bullied”, he said.
Hamza added that he was labeled ‘gay’ or ‘transgender’ by people. His college life was his worst phase since he studied in Gujranwala, where people aren’t quite exposed to such things. He was heavily bullied, which was why he fell into depression, and his anxiety worsened.
This criticism destroyed his personality. He later enrolled in an acting course in Lahore, where his teacher, Arvind Kaur brought up his confidence. Kaur taught him that his personality was his strength and not weakness. He helped bring Hamza’s real self out.
Career in acting
Hamza then talked about how he was rejected by production houses for his ‘feminine’ personality. It was his dream to appear in cinemas, and on the big screen but due to his ‘hand actions’, he was told that he should play ‘feminine’ or ‘trans’ characters.
Rj said that we have imposed our own definition on careers, especially arts. We think that it’s for women or members of the transgender community. He then explained the importance of acceptance in educational institutes and how they should treat men and women, no matter how their personalities are the same way.
Watch the interview here:
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