When you become a mom your entire day revolves around your baby. From the moment you give birth till all the days to come, your child will be your priority. If your child is as clingy as mine, well that’s a whole different story.
Mommy I want this, mommy I want that, mommy do this, mommy mommy mommy are the words I hear all day. Don’t get me wrong, my baby is my reason to live but for the love of God can I enjoy just five minutes to myself in the loo? Please? Nope. Not gonna happen.
Now that my baby has reached her toddler age and can fully communicate her needs, I decided to take some time out for myself. Why shouldn’t I? I decided to join a gym so that I can get some time to myself along with getting healthier (the main motivation was to lose weight but so what).
There was just one hurdle standing in the way of my gym routine. Who is going to baby sit my daughter. Most of you would be thinking, why not her dad? It’s obvious that when the mom is away, the daddy looks after the kids. So why not in my case? The answer to that is simple; my daughter is too much to handle, even for her father. To be very honest, I myself don’t think that my husband is ‘responsible’ enough. I mean mommies know best right?
After a lot of thinking and well needed therapy from my sister who told me to rightfully loosen up I decided it was high time to let my husband look after our child for 1 hour while I take some time to myself. How bad can it be?
After all, this quality time with the two of them would strengthen their father daughter bond.
The day finally arrived and I couldn’t shake off the constant anxiety I was feeling. Relax I told myself. I’m one of those moms who are too finicky about their child’s meal and what and who they are playing with. The thought of leaving her behind for 1 hour was driving me mad. No one could understand what I was feeling. They would tell me to chill out and assure me that my child will not wreak havoc.
To be very honest I wasn’t really sure who I was worried about more, my daughter or my hubby.
I decided to go at a time when my daughter has been fed so that my hubby doesn’t get flustered at meal time. He is too much of a ‘wishy washy’ and our daughter knows very well how to ‘play’ him into getting her junk food.
Now came the time that I was longing for and dreaded at the same time. When we got to the gym, I asked my hubby again if he knew what he was getting into. He somewhat seemed offended at how I could judge his ‘daddy’ abilities and think of him as incompetent. Oh my dearie, it is YOU who I am worried about I thought.
So off I went to enjoy my freedom.
Time flew like a breeze and then it was time to go back home. My hubby and daughter came to pick me up. When I got to the car, I saw my hubby’s face drained of all energy and my daughter as fresh as ever. She had a little bag in her hands filled with all the junk I NEVER give her. She told me her daddy took her shopping and bought her whatever she wanted.
That made me realise how important it is for her and her dad to bond alone. It is imperative for BOTH parents to be actively involved in their children’s lives. Fathers should also be able to look after the children to give the mommies some well deserved alone time.
On the contrary to what I had thought, my daughter and hubby look forward to their daily 1 hour alone while I enjoy some guilt-free me time.